My Parenting Secrets



There's an elephant in the room when it typically comes to groups of parents getting together. I'm talking about the competitiveness. The one-up-manship. The judgement. 

I like to think that my closest friends and I don't participate in this, however I will hold my hands up and say that inwardly I have judged parents who I am not that close to. When my friend's daughter didn't walk until nearly two and mine started at nine months, I can honestly say that not once did I think how much better mine was over hers, we constantly reassured her that she was just into different things and I know I was quietly concerned, not smug.

Unfortunately, not everyone is like this and a relative recently confided that her best friend regularly makes digs about how her daughter still sleeps in their room at nineteen months. While that's not for me and yes, I'll admit, it's not conventional, I'd certainly never say it to her face and make her feel as if she were in the wrong. Nobody's at harm, right?

So, with this in mind I'd like to step forward and offer up ten of my parenting secrets that either make me a really bad or a really good mum, depending in where you stand!

1. My toddler's rarely allowed juice. Only on special occasions and only then with food. It's water or milk in our house.

2. I prefer my children to not have too many character or branded items of clothing. I prefer plain, neutral or non-labelled items, too many cartoon characters in my opinion is tacky. The same goes for toys and books too. I much prefer to encourage my children to embrace and use their imagination, create their own characters or when reading a book, imagine what that character might've looked like without television or film dictating it already. Typically, I don't buy such items myself, but leave it to family and friends as it's easier to tell people what they like by listing characters and films

3. I let my toddler eat some meals on the sofa and she often eats at a separate time from us. And all with the television on...

4. Toddler only wears her pyjamas all day if she is ill. The baby rarely leaves the house in his sleep suit.

5. I have absolutely no issues telling your child off along with mine if I see them fighting.

6. Sometimes I let my toddler watch cartoons on my iPad in bed so I can eat my dinner in peace.

7. I'm a cuddler, I cuddled my eldest to sleep until she was over a year and I'm doing the same with my youngest. I don't think it does any harm for your children to know you love them. 

8. My toddler regularly sneaks into my bed at night and snuggles with us. I'm okay with this. Most of the time. Sometimes baby joins us too. Four in the bed and the little one said...

9. If the baby drops his dummy on the floor (indoors) I pop it in my mouth and then give it back. 

10. Until recently my toddler still had a dummy at night. She still has a bottle at bed. She's three.

So there, I've revealed what I think puts me in last place in the mummy race...but yknow what? My children are clean, healthy and happy. So what if my toddler can name all ten Disney Princesses but forgets to take her knickers off at the toilet sometimes? And so what if my baby laundry is constantly piled high because I dress him so much? We function well.

Would anyone like to share their 'parenting secret'?

Clare

P.S. I swaddle my baby too...and he loves it!

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Little Pink Teacup: My Parenting Secrets

Tuesday, 8 October 2013

My Parenting Secrets



There's an elephant in the room when it typically comes to groups of parents getting together. I'm talking about the competitiveness. The one-up-manship. The judgement. 

I like to think that my closest friends and I don't participate in this, however I will hold my hands up and say that inwardly I have judged parents who I am not that close to. When my friend's daughter didn't walk until nearly two and mine started at nine months, I can honestly say that not once did I think how much better mine was over hers, we constantly reassured her that she was just into different things and I know I was quietly concerned, not smug.

Unfortunately, not everyone is like this and a relative recently confided that her best friend regularly makes digs about how her daughter still sleeps in their room at nineteen months. While that's not for me and yes, I'll admit, it's not conventional, I'd certainly never say it to her face and make her feel as if she were in the wrong. Nobody's at harm, right?

So, with this in mind I'd like to step forward and offer up ten of my parenting secrets that either make me a really bad or a really good mum, depending in where you stand!

1. My toddler's rarely allowed juice. Only on special occasions and only then with food. It's water or milk in our house.

2. I prefer my children to not have too many character or branded items of clothing. I prefer plain, neutral or non-labelled items, too many cartoon characters in my opinion is tacky. The same goes for toys and books too. I much prefer to encourage my children to embrace and use their imagination, create their own characters or when reading a book, imagine what that character might've looked like without television or film dictating it already. Typically, I don't buy such items myself, but leave it to family and friends as it's easier to tell people what they like by listing characters and films

3. I let my toddler eat some meals on the sofa and she often eats at a separate time from us. And all with the television on...

4. Toddler only wears her pyjamas all day if she is ill. The baby rarely leaves the house in his sleep suit.

5. I have absolutely no issues telling your child off along with mine if I see them fighting.

6. Sometimes I let my toddler watch cartoons on my iPad in bed so I can eat my dinner in peace.

7. I'm a cuddler, I cuddled my eldest to sleep until she was over a year and I'm doing the same with my youngest. I don't think it does any harm for your children to know you love them. 

8. My toddler regularly sneaks into my bed at night and snuggles with us. I'm okay with this. Most of the time. Sometimes baby joins us too. Four in the bed and the little one said...

9. If the baby drops his dummy on the floor (indoors) I pop it in my mouth and then give it back. 

10. Until recently my toddler still had a dummy at night. She still has a bottle at bed. She's three.

So there, I've revealed what I think puts me in last place in the mummy race...but yknow what? My children are clean, healthy and happy. So what if my toddler can name all ten Disney Princesses but forgets to take her knickers off at the toilet sometimes? And so what if my baby laundry is constantly piled high because I dress him so much? We function well.

Would anyone like to share their 'parenting secret'?

Clare

P.S. I swaddle my baby too...and he loves it!

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6 Comments:

At 8 October 2013 at 17:18 , Blogger Kathleen Gillen said...

I do number 2, big time. If I buy it, its not got a brand name or character on it. My children are not your free advertising.

Number 3, especially the eating at a separate time. Patrick has had food issues since he was born, and its amazing we now at the stage of being able to go out to dinner and have him reliably feed himself about 8-10 different evening meals. At least he's not the child who will only eat yoghurt and crisps. I cannot physically feed the baby and myself at the same time, so I wind up eating separately from the children/everyone else.

And 4,5,7 (birthday on Friday and still cuddling her to sleep) and 9. Looks like we parent pretty similarly. And Katy loved being swaddled too!

 
At 8 October 2013 at 20:09 , Blogger Belle du Brighton said...

For the few weeks when Athena used a dummy I never once sterilised it, I always just gave it a suck before giving it to her, wether it was in her cot/my bag/the coffee table wherever. I too cuddle my baby to sleep, I don't agree with putting them down and them crying themselves to sleep at all! She also comes in bed with me whenever i'm tired or just want snuggles.
I love that you don't have too many branded/character things, I think this is really important!

I went to an NCT coffee morning last friday although I was never in the NCT classes or anything, I thought it would be a good way to meet local new mums. It was, most of them were LOVELY but one or two were competitive in subtle ways 'is she rolling over yet' 'oh how does she sleep...?' who cares... she'll do things at her own pace!

Thank you for sharing! :)

 
At 11 October 2013 at 21:50 , Blogger Colette B said...

I can't abide characters on clothing!

 
At 13 October 2013 at 10:08 , Blogger Clare Levett said...

Can't be too bad then ;)

 
At 13 October 2013 at 10:12 , Blogger Clare Levett said...

I used to go to a horrible group where people were either hyper competitive or super defensive and I found it really tiring. There used to be a woman in my social group also but thankfully she e,I grated! Lol

I must admit I rarely sterilise the dummies...in France they only wash, never terilize.

 
At 13 October 2013 at 10:13 , Blogger Clare Levett said...

I don't mind but I think there is a limit o how much they should wear. I can't stand shoes with characters on. I'm quite snobby when it comes to children's shoes!

 

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