tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576249560000070041.post2740269156009982053..comments2022-10-29T08:34:36.049+01:00Comments on Little Pink Teacup: The Second ChildAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04868074003413053606noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576249560000070041.post-58022415817341061702013-09-19T10:47:52.309+01:002013-09-19T10:47:52.309+01:00I have no experience to attempt to help you with, ...I have no experience to attempt to help you with, but two things spring to mind...<br />1. you are amazing for having two kids regardless of how close they are in age, and I admire you more for having such a small gap, all the stressful times will pay off in a couple of years (or less!) when they play together like angels (I hope!)<br />2. I am friends with someone with a 6 year old and she's just had another, she is also finding it a struggle not losing her patience with the older one. <br /><br />Lauren - Scrapbook Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13765315349290974852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576249560000070041.post-74202703458134483302013-09-19T10:39:15.786+01:002013-09-19T10:39:15.786+01:00It *does* get easier. I can understand the feeling...It *does* get easier. I can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed. I was fine while I had my two days in hospital with Katy. I was fine while we had all the family around to help us. Then hubby went back to work and the family gone and it was just me from six in the morning till six at night withe the two of them, Monday to Friday. I thought I had it cracked till then. Then Patrick didn't have the extra attention from everyone else and he wanted it from me. He started acting out, throwing tantrums for being told to wait because I was feeding/changing/rocking his sister to sleep. On the other side I will say this. <br /><br />It feels hard and intense right now, but you are in a period of adjustment. You and Maddy both. Its rough, its draining, you're exhausted, you're hormonal, irritated. No-one ever said it was going to be like this and if you say you are finding it hard everyone looks at you like you are stupid, you knew what you were getting into having a second right? But it does get better! <br /><br />In time you will have adjusted to your son's routine, Maddy will understand that she only needs to wait a little while before mummy can put her brother down to sleep or play and give her some time, and that while she does, she can play nicely. The potty training will reestablish. Its very common for it to go backwards when a new baby arrives. Patrick suddenly out of the blue was horrific going to and coming home from preschool either side of Katy's birth because he knew the changes were coming. But he got over it, and so will Maddy. It won't be sudden, it will be slowly, but after a while, you will find that life is no longer chaos, that you are coping better personally, and as a family unit.<br /><br />In the mean time remember this 'this too shall pass'. Its not forever. It won't feel crazy and insane forever. Take it one day at a time and know that you are an amazing mum. Just because things are hard right now doesn't mean that you don't love both of them equally, and that things will always be like this. I wish you the best of luck and all the strength in the world. You are strong, you can do this, and it will get better!Patrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06353211262608794505noreply@blogger.com